My wife (34) cheated on me with her boss (42). The only reason I found out was because his wife (37) reached out to me. She had already left him and realized I was the only person who still had no idea what had been happening.
I left my wife immediately.
The betrayal hit me harder than I can explain. Having to hear apologies, people telling me to forgive her, and knowing my kids would now have to split time between two homes was devastating. It felt like my entire life had been turned upside down overnight.
The only person who truly understood what I was going through was my wife’s boss’s wife. She was living through the exact same nightmare.
We started talking every day. Those conversations turned into meeting in person, and eventually we started sleeping together. At first, it was just two broken people finding comfort in each other. Now we’ve been hooking up a couple of times a month while texting and talking almost every day.
The truth is… I’m falling for her.
She’s beautiful, but that’s not even why I care about her. She’s kind, supportive, and the only person who really understands everything I’ve been dealing with. I honestly think she has feelings for me too.
The problem is that we’re both still legally married because divorces take a long time where we live. She told me she didn’t want to make things even messier for our exes or create more gossip and drama.
But I don’t want this to stay as just s*x anymore. I want to take her on real dates, hold her hand, and see where this relationship could go.
My friends think it’s a terrible idea and say it’ll only make an already messy situation worse.
Would I be the AH if I asked her to make this a real relationship instead of keeping it as just hookups?