Last week something happened that I still can’t fully shake, and now I’m questioning whether I really need to give another shut up call to my sister and totally cut off ties with her or simply let it go.
Around a week ago, I (29F) told my sister (23F) that I had work early and that my boyfriend (25M), who stayed over, would probably leave about an hour after I did.
That morning I ended up running late and was still home.
Out of nowhere, my sister opened my bedroom door completely nak*d.
I froze because I didn’t even process what happened at first. My boyfriend immediately pulled the blanket over himself and started whispering, “Your sister… your sister…”
She saw us, instantly shut the door, then ran off laughing and went straight into the bathroom to shower.
When I asked her later why she came into my room like that, she casually said she thought I had already left.
What made it feel stranger to me is that she previously had issues with a former roommate because she used to walk around in just a towel in front of the roommate’s boyfriend. So I tried not to jump to conclusions and brushed it off.
Now a week later, she randomly brought the whole thing back up out of nowhere and honestly that caught me off guard because I thought the situation had already passed.
Instead of acting embarrassed or acknowledging why it looked weird, she immediately got defensive and started saying I was “centering my relationship” and making everything about my boyfriend.
She said she only opened my room because she wanted to borrow clothes and thought I had already left for work, so according to her there was nothing strange about it.
When I pointed out that walking into someone’s room completely nak*d, especially knowing my boyfriend had stayed over, would obviously make most people uncomfortable, she got irritated.
Then she completely flipped it around on me.
She started saying I was the problem for even thinking anything of it and told me I should seek therapy because apparently I was projecting weird intentions onto her and creating drama where there wasn’t any.
What bothered me wasn’t even whether she had bad intentions at that point. it was how dismissive she became. There was zero acknowledgment that the situation itself was uncomfortable. Instead, she made it sound like my reaction was irrational and embarrassing.
She also constantly makes comments about how my boyfriend is closer to her age than mine, says I’m a loser for dating younger & that he’s her age and that it would make more sense if they related more.
At that point it stopped feeling like a misunderstanding and started feeling like she wanted to make me feel stupid for being uncomfortable.
I tried to talk to her civil but it’s hard when she’s constantly putting me down and acting like I’m crazy for even bringing it up.
Eventually I told her to f*ck off.
Am I reading too much into this, or would this make anyone else uncomfortable?