I came home early after a long week at work… and instantly wished I hadn’t.
I’ve been living with my roommate for about a year, and honestly, we’ve always gotten along well. He’s a good guy, and his girlfriend is around pretty often. She’s always been friendly too, so we’ve never really had any issues.
The thing is, I’m barely home. I work long hours and pick up a lot of overtime since I’m still fairly new at my job. Most days, I leave around 8 a.m. and don’t get back until 10 or 11 at night. My apartment is basically just a place to sleep, shower, and grab a meal.
Yesterday was different.
My boss let me leave early, around 6 p.m. I know that doesn’t sound early to everyone, but for me, it felt like winning the lottery. It was Friday, I was exhausted, and all I wanted was some junk food, a hot shower, and my bed.
Unfortunately, that’s not what I walked into.
The moment I opened the apartment door, I saw my roommate and his girlfriend having s*x right there on our shared living room couch.
We all froze.
I immediately shut the door, trying to give them some privacy, and called through it, “Go to your room.”
After hearing them scramble around for a few seconds and their bedroom door finally close, I came back inside.
Sure, it was awkward. Walking in on someone like that is embarrassing for everyone involved, but accidents happen. I figured we’d all pretend it never happened and move on.
I took a shower, went to my room, turned on Netflix, and thought the whole thing was over.
A few hours later, after my roommate had taken his girlfriend home, he knocked on my door.
I honestly expected an apology for putting me in such an uncomfortable situation.
Instead, he started blaming me.
He said I should have told him I was coming home early. According to him, his girlfriend was completely embarrassed, and I owed her an apology.
That completely caught me off guard.
I’m usually pretty calm, but hearing someone tell me to apologize for coming home to my own apartment was ridiculous.
They had a perfectly good bedroom. Our apartment has great soundproofing, so if they’d gone in there, I never would have known. Instead, they chose the shared living room, where anyone walking through the front door could have seen them.
So I told him exactly how I felt.
I said, “No. You’re the one who decided to do something like that in a shared space. You never told me your plans, and I had no reason to expect I’d walk into that. I’m sorry your girlfriend feels embarrassed, but I’m not apologizing for coming home.”
That only made things worse.
The argument escalated, voices were raised, and he started calling me an ahole for not being considerate.
Honestly, if he’d simply admitted it was a bad decision and apologized, I probably would have apologized to his girlfriend just to ease the awkwardness. I don’t have anything against her.
But after he tried to shift the blame onto me, I wasn’t willing to take responsibility for something that wasn’t my fault.
So, AITA for refusing to apologize for walking into my own apartment?