Throw away because some of our friends use this blog.
I (26F) have been dating my boyfriend (28M) for a little over a year. Overall things have been good, but he has this habit of making “jokes” that don’t really feel like jokes to me.
Last night we went out to a pretty nice restaurant for date night. Not super fancy, but definitely not cheap. I was actually really excited because I’d had a long week and just wanted a relaxed evening.
When the waiter came over, I started to order, but my boyfriend suddenly cut me off and said, “Don’t worry, I’ve got this.” I laughed a little at first because I thought he was just being playful.
Then he ordered for me.
Except… he didn’t order anything I like.
I’m vegetarian, and he knows this. He ordered me a steak. When the waiter looked confused, my boyfriend laughed and said, “She’ll eat it tonight, don’t worry.”
I immediately said, “No, I won’t. I don’t eat meat.” The waiter looked uncomfortable and asked if I wanted to order something else, but my boyfriend kept going like it was part of a bit. He smiled and said, “Relax, it’s just a joke.”
At that point I wasn’t laughing anymore. I told him to stop and let me order. He rolled his eyes and said, “Wow, you’re really going to be like this over a joke?”
So I ordered my own food. I was already annoyed, but I tried to move on.
But it didn’t stop there.
When the food came, he kept making comments like, “You sure you don’t want to try mine?” and “You’re missing out.” Then he actually tried to put a piece of steak onto my plate.
That was it for me.
I stood up, grabbed my bag, and told him I was leaving. He looked shocked and said, “Are you serious right now?” I said yes, and walked out.
I went home and put my phone on silent.
Later, I saw a bunch of messages from him saying I “overreacted,” that it was “clearly a joke,” and that I “embarrassed him in public.”
Now some of our mutual friends are saying I could’ve just ignored it and not made a scene.
But to me, it didn’t feel like a joke. It felt like he was deliberately ignoring something important about me and then doubling down when I told him to stop.
So… AITA for walking out?