I (28F) recently got engaged to my fiancé (30M) about three months ago after being together for seven years. We’re supposed to attend the wedding of his longtime friends (both early 30s) next month—he’s even a groomsman.
Here’s where things got weird.
My engagement ring has a light blue sapphire. In real life, it’s clearly not super bright or flashy—but in photos, it can look darker. This ended up becoming… an issue.
We met up with the couple last weekend, and it was the first time they’d seen my ring in person. At first, everything seemed normal—they asked to see it, commented on how it looked lighter than in pictures, etc. No big deal.
Then, kind of out of nowhere, the bride brought up that the bridesmaids will be wearing a very pale blue. My fiancé already knew this since his tie matches. The groom jokingly said they wanted only the wedding party wearing that shade, and that a ring “was no excuse” to break the rules.
We laughed because it sounded like a joke.
It wasn’t.
The bride then clarified that she was serious and said I wouldn’t be allowed to wear my engagement ring at their wedding because it’s “too close” to their color scheme. She even mentioned she’d already stopped a family member from wearing a necklace with similar stones.
That’s when things got uncomfortable.
My fiancé and I both pushed back a bit, saying it felt like a lot to ask someone to remove their engagement ring—something I basically never take off. I told them I wasn’t even planning to wear blue, so it shouldn’t be an issue anyway.
They doubled down.
They said wearing the ring would “create drama” and could come across like I’m trying to pull attention away from them. At one point, it even turned into them implying my fiancé proposed when he did just to take attention away from their wedding timeline—which honestly felt ridiculous and kind of insulting.
For context, he proposed on our 7-year anniversary during a once-in-a-lifetime trip. It had nothing to do with them.
We ended the conversation at a complete stalemate. At this point, we’re both expecting that I—or both of us—might get uninvited, which I’m honestly fine with.
But my fiancé has been friends with the groom for over a decade, and I know it would hurt him to miss the wedding over something like this.
So now I’m wondering… am I being unreasonable for refusing to take off my engagement ring?
I mean… I’m honestly shocked they didn’t ask me to change my blue eyes too—since apparently everything in that shade is off-limits!
So, AITA?